As I said in the last blog, there are two types of pain: physical, a needful pain because it is oftentimes is an indicator that something is wrong physically and needs your immediate attention, and emotional pain. I believe that emotional pain is the mother of all pain and more difficult to heal. It may take a physical wound a few weeks to heal, depending on the severity of that wound, but an emotional wound can and often does last a lifetime. One of the reasons for this lifelong wound is that society as a whole tries to cover up emotional pain. Society uses band-aids like using alcohol, using drugs, shopping, changing relationships, or moving to another city. None of these things will work.
Emotional pain has been around since the beginning. It existed in the first family. The reason for Cain's killing of Abel goes back to him feeling rejection. The feelings of rejection are strong. For a lot of us, we grew up in dysfunctional families because perhaps our parents grew up in dysfunctional families. The process has repeated itself over and over again. It is true that emotionally hurting people hurt people emotionally.
This actually goes all the way back to Lucifer becoming jealous of God's ability to rule. And it is not all about that, but jealousy and envy are a type of emotional pain. They can cause outbursts of angry words, violent behavior, physical illness and even death. Emotional pain has destroyed lives, ruined marriages, torn families apart, stifled productivity in the workplace, and put nations against each other. Emotional pain is a major source of destruction. It costs both physically and financially. In fact, antidepressants are some of the most widely prescribed medications on the market today. Though they can be helpful at times, they are not able to deal with the root of the problem. The loss to society is great; the band-aids don't work.
One of the biggest causes of emotional pain is relationships gone awry. This can leave a person scarred for life when not dealt with properly. When rejected by someone we desperately want to be accepted by it can alter your life if allowed. Rejection is one of the most common causes of emotional pain and it can kill. I think that a lot of the emotional pain that we live with can be eliminated if we would just be honest with ourselves, tell ourselves the truth, and then speak it to others without anger. Healing comes through transparency at the right time and in the right way. When we cover up, we can never be healed from something. This is why most of us experience a lifetime of pain.
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